I have been thinking a lot about parenting my child to fulfill potential v. parenting my child to fulfill their purpose. It has been an incredibly liberating thought. It is important to define what I mean by potential v. purpose. For me, the definition started with myself – how I live my life will guide how I parent.
- Achievement measured by outside criteria – grades, awards, standardized tests, job placement, job/school promotion, etc.
- Decisions guided by obligation to follow your determined strengths – You are good at math therefore you should…
- Externally driven – requires outside validation
- Little space for the atypical
- Achievement Oriented – what goal have you achieved
- Uncertain – Am I following the correct line to fulfill my potential?
- Achievement measured internally – authenticity and integrity to an internal passion, calling, purpose
- Decisions guided by Passion and personal values – I believe X therefore I pursue Y
- Internally driven – requires self-awareness
- Space for every type of person – typical and atypical alike. Both are equally suited for success
- Mission Oriented – are you true to who you are and what you believe
- Certain – I know that I am following what is right for me, regardless of external validation
Instead of wondering how I, or my child will fit into this world, I strive to discover “the why” in my own life. Why do I get up in the morning? Why am I inspired? What core purpose engages me? I start with the why.